Anonymous asked: "+told my mum that the reason I sometimes don't get out of bed until noon even if I'm awake isn't because I'm lazy as fuck she +wouldn't believe me. I can't see a therapist or anything either cause I'm only 16, and I probably wouldn't trust them. You are right about music though, everytime I'm home alone I sing and play guitar and piano and I've written songs before and it helps, but I'm still afraid I'll have to go to uni and do something like law or economics cause thats what my parents want."
Your parents would definitely understand and they would not call you crazy. They would care and listen to you because they love you and only want what is best for you. My parents didn’t know I self-harmed and once they did, they thought it stopped when I was 16 yet I was still doing it a few months ago and I’m 20.
No matter what your age is you can go and talk to someone but you will more than likely need your parents to bring you/set up appointments etc since you’re still legally a minor. And I know all about the trust issue but that’s why you find someone you like and you slowly build the trust with them and if you don’t feel like you trust one person, you find another!
And let me tell you about what you can do at uni. You can do WHATEVER you want with your life, whatever makes YOU HAPPY. And if you’re parents say they won’t support you then that’s their loss. You can pick whatever path your heart desires for your life but make sure that whatever you choose to do is going to make YOU happy, Who cares about anyone else’s opinion of YOUR LIFE? I promise, my parents weren’t too thrilled with both my brother and I going into music but they’ve accepted it because it’s what makes us happy!
Anonymous asked: "I don't think I can tell my parents, or anyone for the matter. Nobody knows that I self-harm. Actually, I'm pretty sure my parents don't even know what self-harm is and chances are they'd call me stupid and crazy if they found out. Same about my friends, not even my closest friend ever knows. I've taken online tests about depression before and they've all told me that I am depressed, I know you shouldn't blindly trust those but even if they were right I wouldn't be able to tell anyone. If I +"
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Anonymous asked: "+ anymore, I used to know. Everyone hated me, and I had no future or hope or anything. Now I've met new people, and they don't love me but at least they don't hate me. My grades are alright, I think I actually might have a future in music which is what I love, things are supposed to be fine but I'm not happy! Sometimes I think I am but actually I'm just stupid, I shouldn't want to kill myself, I feel like a weak freak. I don't know why I'm like this, I should be happy, not wanting to die."
First off, feeling sad when you think you should be feeling happy is something that I think almost everyone goes through at some point in their life. Cutting yourself is definitely not a healthy option for dealing with your feelings and I know this because that’s exactly what I used to do up until 6 or 7 months ago. Knowing what your triggers are and why they make you want to cut is a good way to start.
You need to find things you love doing that distract your mind and keep you from thinking about cutting. Since you love music so much, (as do I and that’s my major in college right now!) you should listen to your favorite playlist, practice your instrument/voice, or start working on your own song by writing lyrics down! Just find anything that you absolutely LOVE doing and it will definitely help keep your mind distracted.
From reading what you’re feeling and experiencing I think you’re depressed and telling your parents or another trusted adult will help you on the road to recovery. I am in no way a doctor nor am I a mental health professional but based off of your submission I feel as though that’s what’s going on. Your situation right now seems very similar to what I was going through these past few years and I know that talking to someone (a friend, an adult, or a psychiatrist) definitely helped me figure things out and get my head back on straight.
Anonymous asked: "relapsed. I even cut on my arm, which is something I hadn't done in a year or so because it's too easy to have someone seeing it, but it hurts so much it stings and I crave it loads. So I'm back at cutting, less than before but still. I worry so much about the cuts, as if my 'anything but good looking' body wasn't enough I had to go and mess up even worse, and it's not fine that I'll never be able to show anyone my body because I, myself can't stand looking at it. I don't even know why I do it +"
Anonymous asked: "Ever since I started cutting I've done it slowly and not very deep, out of sadness mostly. 6 months ago my parents shouted at me for my bad grades and I did it out of anger and anxiety and just too many things together and it was fast and deep and suddenly I had 5 huge wounds on my hip. They still haven't faded, they're still obvious after all this time even if the rest of my scars usually go away after a couple weeks. It's quite triggering, I managed to go 5 months clean but a while ago I +"
Anonymous asked: "So this girl I don't talk to very much has this crush on someone and he actually has a crush on me. She stopped talking to me and this guy is very sweet. I feel bad bc I know what it's like to feel like someone stole someone who was never yours. What should I do?"
So you can’t steal something from someone when it never belonged to them in the first place AND you can’t steal a human being because he is his own person. He has his own thoughts and feelings and if he likes you and not her, how is that your fault? If you like him and want to be with him then be with him!
Explain to your friend you didn’t mean to hurt her and that you understand why she’s upset but she shouldn’t be upset with you because it’s not your fault. She can be mad about the situation and hurt that he didn’t want to be with her but it’s not your fault he likes you!
Anonymous asked: "Thank you for your advice. You are amazing. You made me tear up. Anyway, I don't usually ask for help because I'm the friend that is always there to help and give advices and everything and I just feel like I shouldn't ask for help from my friends. And then, I remembered this page, and I came here, and you helped me a lot, thank you, love you, and stay strong haha:) I'll probably come here again sometimes #dreamer <3"
We are here whenever you need us! Stay amazing and know we have got your back. Stay amazing and we love you too!
Anonymous asked: "I have a problem. I just keep pushing people away and I really feel bad about that but I can't stop. It's like, I know I'm pushing them away, and decide that the next time I won't, but I still keep doing it and I don't know how to stop. And I feel like nobody actually likes me or wants to be my friend, and like everyone are just pretending so I just find myself talking less and less to them because I don't want to annoy them. I really don't know what to do any more. I feel so lame. by: #dreamer"
Oh hunny, I understand, I really, really do. It’s also really hard to stop and I wish there was one answer and will cure it but unfortunately i don’t think there is. I’m going to have to reference myself and I hate to say “oh, this is what I did” but I don’t know how else to describe this.
When I opened up to my best friend, I instantly went into defense mode and began pushing him away. He was talking to another friend of mine so I kept thinking “he doesn’t want to be friends with a freak like me, he doesn’t like or need me, he has her now”. But to be honest, I just forced myself to keep talking to him. And it took about a week before I realised “hey, he actually does like me cause he’s still talking to me even though I told him how mentally messed up I can be”.
So really my advice in the end is just push through. You feel yourself pushing away? You fight for them, you talk to them like you normally would, you don’t let the doubt get between you two. It’s hard, impossibly hard at times, in the end that is all it is, just fictious doubt.
You are not lame at all darling, you are this amazing person anyone would wanna be friends with. Even tell some of your closest friends how you feel cause there is a chance maybe they feel like they’re annoying you. My friend and I have a running joke about how we annoy each other because we both thought we were annoying the other and began to push away. Then we talked about it and we were like ‘wait, why are we doing this when we clearly do care about one another?’. You never know, it could be the exact same thing for you.
I really wish I had better advice but all I really have is to just push through, force yourself to keep talking to them and also to open up. Some friends will be pushed away, some friends will hold onto you for dear life. I think in the end it’s just a part of life unfortunately :/
Anonymous asked: "So I used to be bullied and that caused me to get very shy and hard to get close to people. I've made a few friends and hope to keep it that way. But recently someone started talking to me and apparently he has a crush on me and I just have this bad feeling that this is some sort of twisted prank someone is pulling on me. He seems sweet and even my friend confirmed that it's real but I can't shake the feeling"
I’m sorry you used to be bullied, you didn’t deserve it in any way. I think it’s best if you just keep talking to him, hang out with him and see where things go. The best thing to do is wait until he tells you how he feels because it’s better to hear it from the horse’s mouth rather from people who could possibly be making assumptions.
I know it’s hard to open up to people but sometimes it’s worth it. If it’s not, you learn from it and if you want it to, you can use it to make you stronger. Don’t rush anything, don’t force anything. Just go with the flow and hopefully this guy will be as sweet as he seems to be :)
Hope that helps, but sometimes it’s impossible to shake that feeling. Maybe if/when he tells you outright how he feels you’ll feel better and that feeling of doubt may fade away