This may get 2 notes this may get 1000. I don’t really mind, even if it helps one person i’m happy.
I just want you to know that everything will be okay. I know you’re in a hard place right now where you think that maybe harming yourself or killing yourself is the only solution. But I promise you, there are other ways you can cope and there are reasons for you to stay on this earth.
Self harming isn’t going to solve the problem/s nor will it make you feel any better. I know you get a sense of release/punishment but it’s not going to help in the long run.
Remind yourself that every time you feel the urge to self-harm that it’s just a thought. You DO NOT have to act upon it.
Self-harming will affect you emotionally, physically and mentally. It will only help for about 5 minutes. Then something else can happen to trigger the feeling again.
Alternatives without harming yourself:
- Holding/squeezing ice.
- Splashing your face with water.
- Getting a rubber band and snapping it against your skin (this could hurt, though it’s better than other ways that people usually choose to self-harm).
- Take a hot shower or bath.
- Eat something sour. It will take your mind of the urge. (Lemon, sour lollies)
- Massage where you want to self-harm.
- Get a red pen or red paint and draw/paint over where you usually self-harm.
- Remind yourself as to why you shouldn’t do it. (Scars, harms organs, blood lose, leave memories etc…)
- Describe what you are feeling. (Is the urge/pain in your chest, fists, legs, arms, head).
Killing yourself will not help. It is not a solution.For whatever reason you are thinking about killing yourself, it is temporary and you can get help.
I know you probably think no one cares, you think you can’t handle the situation you are in or you feel helpless and alone.
But I want to remind you everything is temporary
You have your whole life ahead of you. You have so many more years that you can accomplish things in.
- Having a family.
- Getting married.
- To watch the sun rise.
- To watch the sun set.
- To save someone else’s life.
- Finish school.
- Get your dream job.
- To laugh.
- To smile.
- To go camping.
- Travel to new places.
- To wake up every morning to the person you love.
- To keep that promise you made.
- To accomplish a goal.
- To meet your idle.
- To listen to new music.
- Theme parks.
- Video games.
- To be able to look back and say “I made it”.
Just a reminder; what you are going through is temporary.
In case you need to hear this:
- You are loved.
- You are wanted.
- You are needed.
- You are beautiful.
- You are handsome.
- You are important.
- You are not alone.
- You are okay.
- You are strong.
- You are worth it.
- You are smart.
- You are not a failure.
- You are useful.
- You are going to be okay.
I’m always here for you. I’ll try my best to help and make you smile.
You deserve to be happy and you deserve to know that you are not alone and there are people that can help.
When I feel like I’m getting overloaded and I’m about to burst, I take a deep breath and try to relax my entire body. I focus on my heart rate and count my breaths. Pulling into yourself for a minute or two will definitely help calm you down and refocus.
Why do you say everyone hates you? I’m pretty sure that’s not true! There’s always someone there who is your friend or someone who wishes they were.
Maybe what you need to do is schedule some time during the day to talk to a counselor (or someone you trust) at school.
Another thing is take a “bathroom break” but bring your phone and either call or text someone who can help you through. Sometimes I find it nice to even just call my mom and hear her tell me it’s okay :)
I usually scream into a pillow, maybe hit it a few times. I like to listen to certain songs and scream them to make myself feel better. write your angry thoughts down and burn the paper(OUTSIDE)
I’m sorry to hear about your dad, I hope that he’ll make a speedy recovery and that everything will be fine :)
I really recommend sitting down with a family member such as your mum and crying to her/him about it. Tell them how it’s made you feel really upset and I think just talking it out will help a lot. You don’t have to mention the cutting, just mention the triggers such as your dad getting burnt. Talking it out should hopefully let the tension go and make others aware of how you’re feeling.
Next time you feel the urge to cut, distract yourself. Take a shower, wash your hair, take a nap, go for a run, do fifty squats and 100 jumping jacks, unpack the dishwasher, clean dishes, do ironing, Skype a friend. Try and take your mind off it. If that doesn’t work and you still feel the urge try rubbing an ice cube over your skin or snapping an elastic band against your wrist. Even get a red marker and draw on your skin, that can even help.
You are strong. Your father is strong. You will both get through this, you will both survive and you will be okay. Talk to someone you can trust. Cutting isn’t the answer, you can get through this without inflicting pain upon yourself :)
Love, Elizabeth xx
I think one of the best things you can tell your friend right now is that you are sorry about their friend and that you are there for them. They need to know they aren’t alone and what they are feeling is completely normal right now. Let them know you are there for them if they need to talk, vent, cry, scream, get mad, anything. Right now what your friend needs most is support and to know they are not alone in this.
Maybe you should talk to your friends parents about this and let them know what’s going on (if they don’t already). It might be the best thing for your friend that their parents are there for them, since losing someone is really difficult on it’s own but when it’s especially difficult in this situation.
If your friend wants someone to talk to that is completely unbiased and it can all be anonymous, we’re all here as well! I send my condolences to your friend and the family of the poor soul who left this earth way too soon.
You made it a whole year, that’s something to be celebrated! If you’ve managed a year, that means next time you can aim to remain clean for two years. Unfortunately there will always be times when we make mistakes and relapse but you have to realise that you are still strong and amazing. You may fall down but just get back up again.
Talk to your parents and/or teachers and/or friends about the stress you’re feeling. If you are failing (below 50%) then talk to your teachers and ask for help, that’s what they are there for. They’ll be glad you asked for help and they’ll be able to show you where you’re going wrong and how you can fix it.
I know it’s silly but trust me, this time, next year (or a year after you graduate), you’re going to look back and realise school isn’t the most important thing. Just keep focused and have a goal and strive for that goal.
Never apologise darling, it’s what we are here for. It’s going to be okay, trust me on this, it will be okay. You are not a failure, you are human and you are amazing.
That’s so great!!!! I am so incredibly happy for you. It’s great that you have him who can help you out as well, having a supportive circle of friends and family is the best thing in recovering (or at least that’s what I’ve found in the past).
We’re always here to help and listen, even if you just want to tell us how good life has been going we’re still here hear to listen :D
So proud of you,
Oh gosh I’m sorry but she sounds really controlling and has to make everything about her. Unfortunately, with a friend very similar I understand fully the position you are in.
You have two options, put up with it or end the friendship. Tell her how you’re feeling and that you don’t like how she’s treating you. Stand up for yourself as much as possible so she realises she can’t push you around and tread all over you.
If you want to end the friendship don’t be rude to her, just let it sizzle out. Make new friends, hang with them drift away slowly and politely.
Sorry, I know it’s a shitty position to be in. There’s not much you can do besides yeah, putting up with it (and ignoring her when she gets in her moods) or end the friendship. Wishing you all the best though and just try not to let her get to you. Bitch to your mum or dad when it gets bad, that always helps :)
To the followers who are in high school and taking AP classes, good luck on your exams!! The stress form worrying about the exam will soon be over!
To the followers in college, be happy because you’re almost at the finish line! Just a few final exams and you’re free for summer break!
Just remember that grades are not the most important thing and getting one bad grade isn’t going to mess up your life!