Don’t ever compare yourself to your sisters. It just makes you stressed out and it’s not worth it! You are YOU, not them, and who cares what they’re good at?! You’re good at things they aren’t and they secretly wish they were!
And example from my life is me and my cousin. She is skinny, popular in high school, really smart (she’s now an accountant making loads of $$), and always seems to have everything going right in her life. I was super jealous and hated always getting compared to her since I’m not skinny (I’m overweight), I was a band/drama geek in high school, and I plan on being a music teacher (making veryyyyy little money). People never believed she was my cousin because she was “so pretty and talented.” But one day I was at her house and I was singing along to the radio and she told me she was jealous of my singing voice and wish she had musical abilities like I do. WHAT?! I never thought she would ever be jealous of me!!
I promise you that you are an amazing human being that has SO much worth, you just can’t see it yet!
Yay! I’m so happy that everything worked out for you! Can’t wait to hear from you again!
I completely understand how you feel right now because I was in your shoes many, many times and I can promise you that your friends and family will be devastated if you leave this earth before you’re supposed to. I know it seems like everything is awful right now but killing yourself won’t do what you think it will, it only eliminates the possibility of things ever getting better. You need to remember that there are people out there who care about you and I am totally one of them.
I know you think this is the only option but I promise you things do get better and I am living proof of that. I couldn’t see any way out of the situation but one option and I tried multiple times but I am so glad I didn’t succeed. I now have a beautiful baby boy who is the light of my life and if I had succeeded years ago he wouldn’t be here! Things DO get better but it takes time for things to turn around. I know it’s hard but you have to push through the tough times and once you do you will see there is light at the end of the tunnel and everything is a million times better!
BMI pretty much means nothing. It’s just a stupid tool someone created to help classify people into “healthy, underweight, overweight, and obese”. Your BMI doesn’t tell you your overall health and that is WAY more important than some stupid number on a chart!
I know it’s hard to be comfortable in your own skin but the best way to start that is to find things you like about your body, write them down, and post them somewhere you’ll see them every day! Then you will always know there are things about your body you truly love and eventually you will add more to the list!
Do not feel guilty for eating food. Food is what keeps your body going. Just make sure you’re eating balanced meals! And remember, a splurge once in a while will not hurt you. One healthy meal won’t make you skinny and one bad meal won’t make you fat! So if you want to indulge sometimes DO IT! Cookies and the like are good for the soul. :)
TRIGGER WARNING: SELF HARM
When I was 16, I was a cutter.
It started because I would get so frustrated - emotions writhing out of control - that I needed to lash out at something. Too scared of hurting someone else, I wound up cutting my pent-up rage into my own body.
We made this music video to speak with people out there wrestling with the same demons. To give you stories of healing from the darkness. To let you know that you’re not alone. That there is hope for you.
We can move past these red lines. Together.
RED LINES (documentary music video) on YouTube: http://youtu.be/DT1tXPVPnLM
I think one of the first things is to reach out. It can be hard sometimes, but take the first steps to ask someone after school to hang out or something. Just talking over a cup of coffee after school can be the start of a new friendship, and someone else who is there for you. Or take it a step further than that. Open up to someone you’re close with about your problems, and maybe they can try to find a way to help you work through it.
As for your friends, do you know why they’re leaving you? Do they know how they’re hurting you? Are they just slowly drifting away? Again, I think there’s nothing wrong with reaching out. Just find a way to say, “Hey, I feel alone, can you help me?” If they’re not willing to help you through a hard time, I find it hard to consider them friends.
I’m not sure if this completely answered your question, but I hope this helps! I know it’s difficult when you feel alone, but trust me there are people here for you, like all of us here. Keep your head up and stay strong <3
Just a reminder that we’re still selling t-shirts!
They can be bought from our online store, here.
We’re pretty low on certain sizes, so if you want one before we run out, I’d suggest getting them soon.
As of right now, we will not be getting more of these to sell.
Thanks to the people who continue to support us and buy the shirts! (All the money is going to supporting the cause.)
That would be the dream, really. But we’re just a bunch of teenage girls from around the world. We’d need lots of funding for that.
But maybe one day!
Oh man, that is absolutely the worst feeling in the world, I totally know what you mean. My advice is to hang out with one of your friends one on one, talk to them and just do something you’ll both enjoy. I think if you hang out with just one person it’s easier to remember that you do have common interests and you do belong hanging with that person. If you do it with most people in your group then, maybe that’ll help you to fit in.
Otherwise, you can maybe join a school club. Make friends with people with similar interests which can help that feeling like you don’t fit in go away. Are you doing any outside school stuff such as sport or something like that? I found that when I didn’t feel like I belonged with my school friends, hanging out with friends out of school helped me feel less alone so maybe that could help you too :)
What else is going on hun? You know we are always here to listen to you. Is it school pressure that is on your mind or family issues or just totally random stuff?