Anonymous asked: "So theres this boy, (long story short), I spent all last summer with last summer, we got lots of good memories, i've kinda liked him on and off, we've started to talk again, he is coming down for new years again, he keeps telling me in txt how much he is excited for new years, and how he is excited to spend it with me? i told him he is cute, and he just said thanks? does he like me? should i go get da d? after we hang, should i go in for a kiss? so confusing!"
If you like him and want to kiss him go for it! Worst thing that can happen is he says he doesn’t really like you in that way and you two stay friends! You’ll never know what’s gonna happen unless you go for it! And who knows? Maybe he’ll make the first move :)
Anonymous asked: "And I once explained my anxiety to my doctor and she pretty much brushed it off and said it was just stress from school and told me it wasn't actual anxiety so she probably wouldn't even give it to me anyway"
Well first off all the side affects from medication are potential and they usually only happen right when you start the medication until your body adjusts to it. The chances of you becoming dependent on the meds are very slim and most likely at some point you will be able to be weened off them until you don’t need them at all anymore!
And if your doctor isn’t talking you seriously about what you’re feeling then you need to find a new doctor, someone who will listen to you and truly help you figure out what’s going on. I truly urge you to talk to your parents about all of this and let them know what’s going on.
Anonymous asked: "I don't know exactly why I don't want to go on medication. I have read side effects and a lot of them I could not live with at all. Medication just scares me I don't know why I just feel like I don't want to become dependent on it and not be able to live without it"
Anonymous asked: "My anxiety is so high I feel like if a doctor knew my situation they'd put me on mess in an instant but the weird thing is I just don't want to go on meds. Is this normal? Can I ease my anxiety without meds?"
Are you scared to go on medication because of potential side affects? Or because of something someone once told you about being on medication? I guarantee that there is nothing shameful about getting help for something you cannot control.
If your anxiety is so high to the point where it is affecting your daily life than you need to see a doctor and talk to someone about your anxieties. They might have other solutions other than medication for you! Especially if you tell them you would like to explore every available option without medication first. However if none of those work I think you might have to really hear the doctor out and get put on medication so you can have a life without being held down by your anxieties.
Anonymous asked: "(cont) but she said that she is going to take me to the doctor and ask for depression meds. I'm scared that my family will judge me, or my mum will try to find my razor in my room when I am not home, I can hear her talking on to the ph about me, I am so alone."
You are not alone, if anything your mother is showing you you aren’t alone. Clearly, her initial reaction wasn’t the best but she’s trying to help you and that is amazing for a parent to do. Some parents will ignore it, she’ll tell you your doubt such as her being judgmental, her thinking you’re crazy and all that. She loves you, she’s trying to help you in the only way she knows how - a doctor.
Since you’ve already told her about the cutting, why not tell her how you’re feeling right now? You can always send her a message if you don’t want to say it to her face. Tell her you’re worried about the judgments. When you go to the doctors you can even discuss your worries then, I find it easier to talk to parents when another adult is around.
SHE LOVES YOU. REMEMBER THAT. You are not alone! You also have us, don’t ever forget it
Anonymous asked: "I think I've done the worst decision ever. I just told my mum "Mum, I need to be honest with you, only my conseller knows, you see these scars? these are self harm scars, I'm sorry, I only wanted to be honest with you". Well it didn't go down well, she just told me 'WHY?!, WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT?, WHAT WITH? I DON'T UNDERSTAND?" I'm scared that she thinks that I am crazy, and craving attention? I feel that there is a wall between us now, I'm scared now since she knows (cont)"
Anonymous asked: "+told my mum that the reason I sometimes don't get out of bed until noon even if I'm awake isn't because I'm lazy as fuck she +wouldn't believe me. I can't see a therapist or anything either cause I'm only 16, and I probably wouldn't trust them. You are right about music though, everytime I'm home alone I sing and play guitar and piano and I've written songs before and it helps, but I'm still afraid I'll have to go to uni and do something like law or economics cause thats what my parents want."
Your parents would definitely understand and they would not call you crazy. They would care and listen to you because they love you and only want what is best for you. My parents didn’t know I self-harmed and once they did, they thought it stopped when I was 16 yet I was still doing it a few months ago and I’m 20.
No matter what your age is you can go and talk to someone but you will more than likely need your parents to bring you/set up appointments etc since you’re still legally a minor. And I know all about the trust issue but that’s why you find someone you like and you slowly build the trust with them and if you don’t feel like you trust one person, you find another!
And let me tell you about what you can do at uni. You can do WHATEVER you want with your life, whatever makes YOU HAPPY. And if you’re parents say they won’t support you then that’s their loss. You can pick whatever path your heart desires for your life but make sure that whatever you choose to do is going to make YOU happy, Who cares about anyone else’s opinion of YOUR LIFE? I promise, my parents weren’t too thrilled with both my brother and I going into music but they’ve accepted it because it’s what makes us happy!
Anonymous asked: "I don't think I can tell my parents, or anyone for the matter. Nobody knows that I self-harm. Actually, I'm pretty sure my parents don't even know what self-harm is and chances are they'd call me stupid and crazy if they found out. Same about my friends, not even my closest friend ever knows. I've taken online tests about depression before and they've all told me that I am depressed, I know you shouldn't blindly trust those but even if they were right I wouldn't be able to tell anyone. If I +"